The word Retrouvaille™ (pronounced re-tro-vi with a long i.) is a French word meaning rediscovery. The program is an all-volunteer run ministry that offers tools needed to rediscover a loving marriage relationship. Tens of thousands of couples headed for cold, unloving relationships or divorce have successfully overcome their marriage problems by attending the program.
The main emphasis of the program is on communication in marriage between husband and wife. It will give you the opportunity to rediscover each other and examine your lives together in a new and positive way.
It is a Three Phase Program:
Phase 1: The Weekend
We liken the weekend to "jumper cables for your relationship", or "The Surgery in a hospital."
The weekend experience begins on a Friday evening and ends on a Sunday afternoon. During the weekend, you will be introduced to a new communication technique that helps couples break through the walls that have built up over time. The weekend is presented by three couples and a priest or pastor couple. The three couples are not counselors, and not professionals. Instead, they are volunteer couples that have been through the misery stage of marriage, and restored their relationship through the Retrouvaille program. They are peers, and while they are presenting, they are doing the program with you as they share their struggles and the subsequent restoration of their marriages.
The priest or pastor couple have also been through the program themselves, and bring the spiritual component to the program. They share their struggles as well. They do not preach or indoctrinate, but rather share an entirely fresh perspective on marriage, and how it relates to them.
This is not a counseling weekend, it is not a spiritual retreat, and it is not group therapy of any kind. Rather, it is a time for you and your spouse to listen and focus on one another as you rediscover the love that brought you together in the first place, explore building trust, and achieve forgiveness.
Phase 2: The Post Follow-Up Sessions
If the weekend is jumper cables, the Post Follow-Up Sessions are the mechanic. If we compare the weekend to surgery, these sessions would be the recovery & physical therapy.
We know that a weekend cannot magically solve our marital problems. In fact, the weekend is meant merely to open you up to one another for real communication. The Post Follow-Up sessions are where we take what we learned during the weekend, and build on it, to help you bring your relationship not only to a better place, but to give you the tools to truly keep your relationship healthy. This is where couples dig deeper into problem solving, trust-building, and forgiveness.
The follow-Up Sessions are typically a series of six or seven weekly sessions of four hours each. Some Retrouvaille communities do 12 weekly sessions of two hours each.
Phase 3: C.O.R.E. (Continuing Our Retrouvaille Experience)
To continue with the analogies used above, C.O.R.E. is like regular tune-ups for your car, or regular doctor visits.
Once you have completed the weekend and Post sessions, you will be invited to our C.O.R.E. gatherings, and can attend whenever you desire. Most communities host one gathering per month, and you are always invited to any C.O.R.E. gathering, anywhere in the world. They are in 43 states in the United States, and 24 countries world-wide.
Happily MarriedThese are informal gatherings that usually last a couple hours. They are fun and welcoming times, where you will meet with other couples that share the amazing bond of having been through Retrouvaille. The gatherings are couples-focused, and are all about helping our extended family stay on the right path. Many couples find that attending C.O.R.E. keeps the experience fresh for them, and helps keep them slipping back into old habits.
The C.O.R.E. gatherings are always free, and hosted by the local community. Couples are often asked to bring a snack, or perhaps a gathering will be a Pot Luck dinner.
You Are Not Alone
Between the Weekend, the Post sessions, and the C.O.R.E. gatherings, once you are part of the Retrouvaille community, you always have a network of support that is there for you. We are all volunteers with one goal in mind: To save marriages and families. To us, that means much more than a weekend conference or retreat, but rather a world-wide family of couples that is always there for one another.